Amazing Parenting Advice For First Time Mums And Dads

Amazing Parenting Advice For First Time Mums And Dads

Children  aren't born with an instruction booklet. And if you are a new parent, you soon find that it can be a terrifying job. It’s normal to feel nervous about becoming a mother of father for the first time. You're excited, but you’re also about to enter into a whole new role that you’ve never had any experience with before. A lot of the time you'll feel like you're doing everything wrong, and you'll wonder how to get it right. There's also the matter of those "over-competent parent" friends of yours who always seem to know how everything's done. Every parent could do with some amazing parenting advice that's been tested and trusted by a more experienced parent. That's why we've curated some useful tips and advice about parenting below.

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New Mum or Dad? Here's Some Amazing Parenting Advice For You.

Make time to enjoy yourself before your baby arrives. Make plans with friends, have a manicure, see a movie. Having a baby is the best thing that could happen, but your life will change. You won't be able to enjoy these things for a while after baby comes. Your life will revolve around your little one instead. Some activities that make up your routine  every day — or every week, will simply have to go because you're now responsible for this little human.

Have realistic expectations.  While pregnant, you might hear yourself say "our baby will blend right in with our lives and we'll go on like nothing changed". Don't even try to believe it. Your lives for the next couple of years will feel like a never-ending headache. Being sincere with yourself and having a realistic view on parenting will stop you from sinking under the weight of it, when it becomes heavy.

Know that nursing a baby is hard. It's supposed to be the most natural thing in the world, but getting the baby to breast-feed can be difficult and even impossible for some mothers. Then there all those hours of sitting put and nursing the baby. It's definitely not a walk in the park. As an expectant mum, you will need to work with a good lactation consultant to avoid any hitches in breastfeeding.

Nobody loves their job every single day. Parenting is the most exciting and at the same time terrifying job you'll ever have. It's not a job that you can be totally prepared for. And no one loves their job EVERY SINGLE DAY. Parenting is hard. But it is also the most rewarding thing to watch this little human grow into person they are supposed to be. Don't forget to do your best, what works for you and your family, and to trust your gut. The rest will come.

Don't forget that you and your partner are a team. Make sure you and your significant other are on the same  team, and you both know what’s best for your children. Encourage yourselves by reminding each other what a great job you're doing. Set aside time to grow and maintain your connection. Talk about what you need, what's working and what's not. It will help you both appreciate this major identity shift that you're going through.

Invent your own parenting philosophy. One of the beautiful things about parenting is there's no one-size-fits-all approach. Every family will decide what works for them and implement it as they go along.Because of this, everyone and their cousin will offer advice, and swear that their way is the only way.Never argue. Just give them an interested smile. Then ignore the advice unless you actually agree with it. Do not ignore the advice of your doctor or other health professional! Ask the questions you want answers to, follow your instincts and ignore all unsolicited advice.

You will not always be right, but you will be an amazing parent. Forgive yourself in advance for the mistakes you will make, and you'll make many. Try not to be hard on yourself. You are going to be an amazing mother. You will not do everything right, even with the best of intentions. What matters is doing it from the deepest place of love and trying. We all make mistakes. Honestly, the mistakes are an important part of the process. That’s the soul growth. Besides, what will you have to talk about with other moms over lunch and a cocktail?

Ask for help. We are wired to want to do it all and sometimes we think we can do it all, but you can't do it all right now. When friends and family ask what they can do to help, make sure you have an answer ready, whether it's picking up coffee, holding the baby so you can shower, or throwing in a load of laundry. If you say, "Nothing," the help is going to go away, and you're going to regret it. Take all the assistance you're offered and ask for some yourself.

Do you have any amazing parenting advice you would give to first time parents? We’d love to hear it in the comments.

Source: BBC

Also read: Pursuing your passion and being a parent? They can be a perfect fit!

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