Life Lessons From Brad Pitt And Angelina Jolie's Divorce
The after-effects of divorce can be very traumatizing for kids. There are key lessons from how Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie handled their divorce.
There’s an African proverb that says when two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers. This is a way of saying that when two parents fight or divorce, the children often bear the consequences. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie’s divorce shocked their fans. Divorce is known to be hard, especially on the children, but not necessarily in the case of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt’s kids.
Since meeting each other 14 years ago, Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt’s union seemed like a match made in heaven. This prompted their fans to coin a single name from both their names: Brangelina. But in September 2016 Angelina Jolie announced their divorce, citing irreconcilable differences. She also sought the custody of all six of their children, asking that visitation rights be granted to Brad Pitt.
Most children grow distant after their parents’ divorce. Some turn on the parents, even looking for where to lay blame.
But according to a source exclusive to Hollywoodlife, “All of Angelina and Brad’s kids are extremely close. They’re all very caring and protective of each other. They have always been a tight unit, but their parents’ divorce made the bond between them even stronger. They still bicker sometimes, like all siblings do, but overall they get along really well.”
The source went further to say that Angelina really encourages that feeling of being a little tribe.
“She has group meetings so everyone can share their feelings. They do game nights, they read to each other; there is a lot of group time. Brad’s so close with his brother and sister (Doug Pitt and Julie Pitt Neal), so it’s something he wanted for his kids, too. He and Angelina are totally on the same page with that.”
In a personal essay in the September issue of Elle magazine, Angelina Jolie reveals how she educates her daughters.
“I often tell my daughters that the most important thing they can do is to develop their minds,” Jolie wrote in the essay. “You can always put on a pretty dress, but it doesn’t matter what you wear on the outside if your mind isn’t strong.”
In the heat of the moment, parents can momentarily forget that what matters the most is their children. These are 4 lessons to take away from Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie’s divorce:
Before the divorce, you both need to sit down and discuss it with the children. And answer any questions they might have honestly. More often than not African parents fail to see the need for this.
Depending on the length of your marriage, they’ve known and seen you two together all their lives. Don’t expect them to take everything in their stride. Think of how hard the process is for you as a parent and an adult and this might give you a little perspective on how the children might be feeling.
This is prevalent when the divorce was colored by too much bad blood. Don’t make any of your children to pick sides. Or make them feel guilty for loving the other parent.