Chemistry v. Compatibility: Which should you value over the other?

Chemistry v. Compatibility: Which should you value over the other?

Chemistry in relationships is simply what happens when you initially see someone and feel a type of way. That attraction you get to them, that reaction, that part of you that is drawn to them in that instant of first [or subsequent] contact… that’s chemistry.

chemistry in relationships

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It’s sort of unfounded; or at its best, based on things like looks, how they talk and their swag and vibes and your physical reaction to them. It’s like a surface thing, the feeling of being drawn to someone based on an initial appraisal, nothing deep yet… just feeling someone from a ‘distance’, without having known so much of their habits, opinions and perspectives on life, their values and all that stuff.

chemistry in relationships

You could have chemistry and not have compatibility. [Credit – Readers Digest]

What compatibility stands for in relationships is to help you know whether that attraction is worth pursuing, if it is something you want to dwell on and act on, or if you should just discard it and forget it and move on with your life.

While chemistry draws you to someone, compatibility is ultimately what determines if you should stay with them or not.

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