Ladies, these are the things you should do on a first date – Olajide Tope
Oladipe Tope is a popular online relationship counselor. He is up there with other Insta relationship gurus like Joro Olumofin and Blessing CEO of Break or Make up.
In his latest Instagram post, Oladipe Tope, also known as @Toplagy on social media, listed out some important tips for ladies going on dates with new people for the first time.
He suggested that women should observe the following precautions:
1. First dates should happen in familiar places
On a first date, don’t agree to go on a date at a restaurant or spot you are unfamiliar with. Since the first date is like a mock day to access the kind of person you are about to deal with. But if on the first date you are in an environment you are not familiar with, you will most likely get carried away and forget to be watchful.
Familiar environments, while making you comfy, also make you appear more confident and in control. You can use your surroundings as conversation aids, which will make you appear more knowledgeable and smart. Trust me, every correct guy loves a smart lady.
2. Observe your date for signs of red flags
You need to observe things like his appearance, communication skills, gestures, intelligence, sensitivity, relationship with others, and lots more. Look out for telltale signs of the future of the relationship. These are the clues which will minister to you whether this is the love of your life or the regret of your life.
3. Carry your ‘vex money’
In addition to having a date in a familiar environment, you need to have enough money to cater for your bills—food, drinks, transport fare, tips, and order for what you are used to and what you can also afford at the moment. Even though he ought to pay as convention demands (9ja way), in case of any yawa, you go still hold your side.
Apart from yawa, you will be able to eat comfortably without feeling indebted to him. After all, you have been eating it before so no big deal. You will feel relaxed and believe me, nothing exudes confidence like a calm disposition.
4. This is what could happen if you don’t have vex money on you…
Going on a date with enough money in a familiar location could save you from embarrassment and regret. Say midway through the date, you discover that this guy is bunkum and isn’t worth your time and you decide to ditch him. Imagine ending the date abruptly and awkwardly, then coyly asking for transport fare and the suspected bunkum confirms your suspicions and declines.
My sister, you go trek tire… Or to avoid that, some would play along and act as if everything is cool, to the extent of having sex with their date just to save themselves from being stranded since they are in an unfamiliar place without transport fare.
Please, prepare like you want to treat yourself to a good time without expecting anything in return.
Oladipe Tope’s first date safety tips for ladies will save you from embarrassment. It will also prevent you from being helpless and at the mercy of someone who makes you uncomfortable.