Here's Why Your Relationships Don't Last: It's Not Them, It's You.

Here's Why Your Relationships Don't Last: It's Not Them, It's You.

Most people go into relationships with high hopes. We all want to be in lasting relationships that are meaningful. However, we all have weaknesses, and they can be the downfall of relationships. If you’ve noticed that all of your relationships tend to have a 90-day warranty and then suddenly they’re over, the problem is likely you. Here are some behaviours that are probably pushing your partners away.

Clam Queen

Relationships require consistent and open communication. If you aren’t very open emotionally, you can’t count on having long-lasting relationships. You cannot be clammed up in a relationship that should last. You have to be able to tell your man what you’re thinking, how you’re feeling, what you want out of the relationship, and even small things, such as how your day went. Without open communication, your relationship will fail. Holding yourself back in a relationship, physically, mentally, or emotionally, doesn’t allow you truly get to know each other.

Too Much of A Needy Nancy

It’s definitely important to feel wanted, loved, and cared about. But when you're in a relationship, you and your man don't need to be connected at the hip. If you’re somebody who needs attention 24/7 and you need to be around your guy ALL the time, you may be a bit too much to handle for most men. If you want a lasting relationship, you’ll have to realize that time spent together is just as important as the time that you two spend apart from each other.

Quite The Busy Bee

These days, women love to be independent. There’s nothing more rewarding having a steady  job, a career focus, and a college degree. However, there are some women who need to be honest about the fact that they are just way too busy for a relationship. Where you choose to spend your time shows where your priorities lie. If you see your guy once or twice a week for an hour, then the relationship is already strained. Relationships require effort and time, and if you can’t give that, it’s a done deal.

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Low on Self-Confidence

For many men, it’s extremely difficult to date a woman who is not confident in herself. Your lack of confidence can lead to plenty of other problems in the relationship, including a lack of trust, jealousy, and a constant need for affirmation. Like you’ve heard plenty of times, before someone can love you, you have to love yourself.

Unrealistic Expectations

These days, we now believe that we can easily meet someone, get married, and live happily ever after with a snap of the finger. But, for most of us, this is merely a dream, and we all know that relationships just aren’t that easy. Going into a relationship with unrealistic expectations will definitely set it on a path to nowhere.

Immaturity Issues

Immaturity and lasting relationships just don’t go together. While a man may be able to cope with your low levels of maturity at first, it’s most likely that your immaturity will soon enough drive him away from wanting to be in a relationship with you. Being immature doesn’t allow for the serious effort and energy that is needed in order to keep a relationship on the smooth path. If you’re immature, don’t expect any relationship you have to stay alive for very long until you grow up.

Why do you think relationships don't last? Share with us in the comments.

Source: Madame Noir

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