How To Build A Great Relationship With Your Daughter

How To Build A Great Relationship With Your Daughter

The mother-daughter relationship is very important in charting the course of your daughter's development. Studies have shown that a toxic relationship between mother and daughter causes low self-esteem, depression, among other negative effects. Therefore, it is important that you know how to build a great relationship with your daughter.

Being a mum is not an easy task. It is a lifelong role often filled with concern that you are actually doing the best in your capacity as a mum. You also want to ensure that you are raising a well-rounded daughter who has healthy self-esteem and can face the world in confidence.

5 Ways To Build A Great Relationship With Your Daughter 

Trust your daughter

If you want to achieve this, there are a couple of things you must ensure are present in your relationship.

1.      Trust

Trust isn’t a thing that comes easy. You have to mindfully work towards it. You are the first intimate female relationship your daughter would experience. This means that you have to prove yourself to her and show her what a trusting relationship looks like. When there is trust between a mother and daughter, you will both consider yourself allies. This means that she will always see you as a safe place.

2.      Positive Communication

Communicate effectively

Communication is a two-way street. There is the talking part and the listening part. There is also positive communication and critical communication. Be careful in the choice of words you use for your daughter. The words from a mother would most likely cut the most. In addition, also learn to listen effectively. As a growing child, she might not have adequate words to explain the things that confuse her.


3.      Respect

While African culture focuses on respect for adults, we often neglect respect or children. Just because you are her mom does not mean that you do not respect her boundaries or privacy.


4.      Be her role model

It is up to you to model the kind of relationship you want from your child. She would copy the values you model and your behaviour. Parents are the greatest influencer of a child’s character. If you want her to be kind, model kindness. If you want her to be confident in her body image, let her see you confident. When she sees you making moves in the world, it empowers her to take a seat at the table when her time comes.


5.      Love her but do not box her up.

Moms are often overprotective. Protecting your child is a natural reaction of every parent. However, you need to recognize when it’s time to let them go and make their own way in the world. You need to trust that you have raised them well. Also, you should believe that they will turn to you when they need your guidance.

How To Build A Great Relationship With Your Daughter

Finally, to build a great relationship with your daughter is hard work. It is not something you wish for. Instead, it is something you have to consciously work towards daily. It might even get tougher when puberty hits and they start making decisions that differ from yours. When they make mistakes, learn to forgive them and understand that it is not because they hate you. They are just navigating the world and will still look up to you to guide them.


Read also: Open letter to the invisible mother who feels ignored 

Written by

Lydia Ume