How To Enjoy Married Life As An African Couple
In this article, we explore 5 things that will you enjoy married life more
When we look at couples who have been happily married for years, it is normal to desire that kind of partnership for yourself. However, what we often do not see is the hard work and sacrifices required to enjoy married life.
Despite sad stories of broken marriages, it’s heartwarming to hear love stories of long-time married couples who are still very much in love with each other. According to CNN, Sarah Michelle Gellar and Freddie Prinze Jr.are celebrating 20 years together which is indeed a feat in an industry rife with divorce stories.
Their relationship kicked off because a mutual friend didn’t show up for dinner the day three of them were supposed to catch up. This allowed the couple to connect more intimately and they have enjoyed a blissful marriage since then, which is the kind of union many people are looking to have.
Find out how to enjoy married life, keeping things fresh and memorable many years down the line.
5 tips on how to enjoy married life
Geller and Prinze had already met each other on the set of the 1997 thriller “I Know What You Did Last Summer” and became friends. After their marriage, twenty years down the line, they still go to that restaurant for dinner, according to Geller. This is a wonderful way of keeping the memory of their meeting alive and strengthening their love. Below are ways to keep your marriage happy and enjoyable as an African:
- Compliment each other
Everybody likes compliments, so try not to let your partner fish for compliments before you give them. Make it a habit to tell them how great they look, how good of a job they do around the home, and they’ll most likely want to do even more.
Drop old issues
Sometimes it is very tempting to bring up old issues just to prove a point in the present. This is something you both need to desperately avoid because they open up old scars. Especially when the issue in question was never properly resolved.
- Gifts and surprises
This one is a bit tricky because as Africans our definition of what a gift should be is slightly different. Unless your partner is someone who appreciates flowers, don’t go ahead and give them flowers. In this part of the world, most people prefer gifts that are practically useful in some way. The best way to go about this is to listen attentively to your partner and they might mention something they want in one of your conversations.
- Avoid comparisons
Every union is different because of the different combination of people and the existing dynamic. For this reason, avoid looking at your spouse and thinking they don’t do stuff like your friend’s wife or husband. Instead, focus on the things you need to do to make your union better and happier.
- Celebrate good moments
Moments of celebration are a way of bonding as a couple. If your partner wants to celebrate your one-year old house, promotion, childbirth, or good grades, you shouldn’t try to put it off as silly. Even if you are not really taken with the idea, do it for them sometimes. Their happiness is worth it.
Overall, talking and listening to each other is one of the main reasons why marriages remain happy. By being open to talking and listening to your partner, you learn a lot about them. As a result, you also learn what their love languages are.