Asian Man Shares His Interracial Love Story And It Has A Happy Ending
A young Singapore man has shared the courage and tenacity it took to have his Asian family accept his African bride. His story features happy endings.
Nothing like a good love story shared shared on the worldwide web to immediately get everyone mushy. Last week on the Subtle Asian Traits Facebook group, e-home to millions of Asians, a young Singapore man shared his love story.
The man,, recently married his fiance, Edna Sophia, who is from Ghana in West Africa. However, the relationship was far from smooth sailing. This was because Tan’s father was initially unwilling to give them his blessings. In his post, Tan detailed some of the challenges they faced.
Clarence’s Father Did Not Approve Of The Interracial Couple
Tan said that some of the things his father told him were “hurtful”.
According to Tan, his father thought that their cultural differences would have them fighting a lot. And daddy dearest thought this was bad for marriage, naturally. His father also claimed that their relationship would be “bad for business”. This was especially if he was going work in Asia. For these reasons, Tan’s father apparently told him not to expect his blessings. He added that he may not show up at the wedding.
Love Is Nothing If Not Persistent
Our dear, Singapore man, Tan narrated how he got into a lot of arguments with Sophia because of these tensions. However, he was determined to get his family to warm up to her. He would constantly encourage his then-girlfriend to visit his family. Over time, Tan shared that his family eventually accepted her upon finding out that she’s “intelligent, kind, extremely caring and considerate, and polite”.
The couple eventually tied the knot after three years of dating. “It was 100 per cent difficult,” Tan said, “but she’s the one.”
Even sweeter, Tan revealed that he has never seen his father happier than on his wedding day.
Read his Facebook post below:
How To Strengthen An Interracial Relationship
These tips will help you grow your interracial relationship. Hopefully like the Tans, you weather the storms and ring the wedding bells. We’re rooting for you.
When the Going Gets Rough, Play Nicely
Conflict occurs in every partnership. It’s inevitable because a relationship contains two separate people with their own identities, which is a good thing. The key is how you handle conflict. Partners should treat disagreements with respect and consideration. They may just reach new points of connection and understanding. Research reveals that when interracial partners take a loving hand toward each other when conflict arises, this forecasts greater contentment in the relationship.
Remember that Me + Me = We
It’s one thing for two people to agree they’re in a relationship together, and quite another matter for them to be a joined unit. When partners view themselves as a united team with their own, common story, they’ve fostered a sense of “we-ness.” Couples can develop we-ness privately between themselves, in public, or both.
See the Beauty in Difference
Differences between partners get a bad rap at times. This is unfortunate because they can be quite engaging and delightful. And for interracial couples who also think they have different cultural backgrounds, these differences merit being valued and honoured.
Talk About Race, Listen Carefully, and Validate Your Partner
Although this point applies to all interracial couples, it’s especially valuable for White partners in interracial relationships to keep in mind.