Meghan Markle's Struggle With Balancing Motherhood And The Challenges Of Royalty
Yes, Meghan Markle is a Duchess but she is also a new mum. And the struggle is not exactly different. New mums require a lot of support from their community, but her recent interview reveals her struggles of handling the struggles of being a new mum with being royalty.
Meghan Markle’s struggles with being in the limelight and more recently, motherhood, have not been a secret since her marriage to Prince Harry. In a documentary titled Harry and Meghan: An African Journey, which aired on ITV, the Duchess touched more on her struggles, admitting for the first time that there was indeed a rift with her husband’s brother Prince William.
Tom Bradby interviewed the couple for ITV. The Duchess lifted the lid on struggles that come with being a member of the royal family. She revealed that though her British friends warned her against marrying Prince Harry, that the tabloids will “ruin her life” she naively did not believe them. This does not in any way mean that she doesn’t like to be scrutinised, but that her treatment in the press was a “different beast.”
“But my British friends said to me: I’m sure he’s great but you shouldn’t do it because the British tabloids will destroy your life. And I very naively – I’m American, we don’t have that there – thought what are you talking about? That doesn’t make sense, I didn’t get it. So yeah, it’s been complicated.”
She added, trying to hold back tears, “Not many people have asked if I’m okay. But it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes.”
She told Bradby, “I’ve said for a long time to H—that’s what I call him—it’s not enough to just survive something, right? That’s not the point of life. You’ve got to thrive, you’ve got to feel happy. I’ve really tried to adopt this British sensibility of a stiff upper lip. I’ve tried, I’ve really tried.”
“But I think that what that does internally is probably really damaging. The biggest thing that I know is that I never thought this would be easy. But I thought it would be fair. And that’s the part that’s really hard to reconcile.”
Additionally, the Duchess was asked if she can put up with life in the limelight as it is, she revealed that as a newlywed and new mother, she is hoping for more out of life than just “surviving”. The Duchess explained that the trip to South Africa was “a lot for a five-month-old.” She was then asked if the journey was tiring, to which she answered: “Well life is, but any mom can relate to that. But he’s doing really well, he’s sleeping really well.” And the Duchess insisted that the significance of her son meeting the bishop wasn’t lost on them. It was the first time he was photographed on an official assignment.
“It’s not lost on us what a huge and significant moment that is, she said. “Archie will look back at that in so many years and realise he was so fortunate to have this moment with one of the best and most impactful leaders of our time. It’s really special.”
Finally, she attempted to stay positive at the end of the interview, saying in relation to her struggles, “That’s okay. The good thing is I’ve got my baby and I’ve got my husband and they’re the best.”
The breath of the interview about Meghan Markle’s struggles and the way the duchess bared her heart, insisting that she has “really tried” to go the way of the British, only enhance views of some that the couple is seeking a way to distance themselves from royal life. Her attempt to deal with issues with a stiff upper lip is “internally really damaging.” After all, it has been reported that they are looking at spending more time away from Britain, with Prince Harry even going as far as saying that Africa would be “amazing” were it not for logistics.
It is a given that motherhood isn’t joy and sunshine, and every new mother has her struggles, which most times you try to suck up and keep going. You are trying to be a good mother, partner, daughter, and friend. And it can be incredibly difficult. This is for you. You’re incredible. Give yourself a break.