An Open Letter To Women: Why Mummy's Boys Make The Best Husbands
Abubakar Tafawa-Balewa says he's a proud Mummy's Boy and tells women why mummy's boys actually make the best husbands.
“Omo Mummi” they call us. Usually as a way to tease us, but I’m a mummy’s boy and I’m proud of it. I have a strong bond with my mother and she always instilled respect for women in me. She taught me the importance of remembering birthdays. And how every birthday had to come with a gift. I learnt the importance of cards and flowers. And why it is important to look your best. Also not to go out of my way to impress others. But most importantly she taught me to always be honest and truthful - vital elements in any relationship.
The Real Mummy's Boy
You know different studies have shown that we grow up to be the best husbands, even though most of you think otherwise. A study I came across some time ago showed that sons who have a strong, close relationship with their moms are more likely to be considerate, make their wives happy and enjoy successful marriages.
My dear women, don’t be afraid of us mummy’s boys. I know the dictionary describes us as boys or men who have this excessive closeness to their moms. But a man being close to his mother is a good thing. However a man that is controlled by his mother is a totally different brand of mummy's boy. There will definitely be problems in the marriage, as two women can’t run a home. A future daughter-in-law will definitely clash with a controlling and meddling mother-in-law. And if the man has to run to his mother for every little thing, that’s not a ‘man’, that’s a child.
It’s only natural for that to happen because where do you think our first understanding of women and how to treat them comes from? Our mothers of course! So you should be singing to the high heavens if your partner treats his mother with respect. Mothers help to mould the way their sons deal with women, and they’re sure good at it. Why do you think I wear my “Omo Mummi” badge with pride.
What’s more is that we are able to develop intimate and emotionally open relationships, all because our mothers have helped us to do that. We’re not afraid to be vulnerable, yet we will fight to protect you.
I hear a lot of women talk about how they are looking for men to treat them with respect, honour them, understand them. Men who are in touch with their feminine sides. Ladies, you are looking for a Mummy’s Boy.
Abubakar Tafawa-Balewa is a lawyer and luxury brand consultant. He is also the founder and publisher of Mode Men Magazine - the leading men's lifestyle magazine in Nigeria.