Nigerian Writer Accuses Big Brother Nigeria Voice Of Sexual Assault.
Olutimehin Adegbeye, a Nigerian writer, speaker and activist has accused the person behind BBNaija 2019 voice of Sexual Assault against her. With recent publicity on sexual abuse allegations, it's time to talk about things that parents can do to reduce the risk of their children becoming victims of sexual assault and rape.
Olutimehin Adegbeye, a Nigerian writer, speaker and activist has made some shocking allegations of sexual assault. Adegbeye alleged that the man behind the Big Brother Nigeria 2019 voice sexually assaulted her. She made the claim on her Twitter account @OhTimehin while disclosing the person behind the voice as Andre Blaze Henshaw.
Olutimehin’s revelation comes less than a month after Busola Dakolo accused Biodun Fatoyinbo, founder and Senior Pastor of Commonwealth Zion Assembly, of rape.
She laid her allegation in a series of tweets.
“Tell me again how survivors “speaking up” and “naming our abusers” somehow magically stops them from having the resources, social space and power to abuse other people.
“The BBC never apologised, by the way. Nor did they seem to remember or care what they did before inviting me to speak at another one of their ‘pro-woman’ events this year. Trololololol.
“Tell me again how accusations of sexual violence are terrible things that ‘ruin men’s lives’.
Big Brother Nigeria: See Timehin’s Tweet Below
Just a friendly reminder that all of you watching Big Brother are listening to the voice of Andre Blaze Henshaw, who sexually assaulted me while I was incapacitated, in full view of other people, and despite the fact that another woman who saw him tried to make him stop.
— OluTimehin Adegbeye (@OhTimehin) July 20, 2019
She condemned the culture of blaming the victim for how rapists get away with the crime.
“The problem isn’t that most people don’t believe survivors — even though that’s a huge problem in and of itself. The real problem is that people simply do not care.
“If this news is reaching you for the first time, please be reminded that it is news *to you*. I’ve been talking about this for years. I don’t care if you believe me or not. I’m just reminding you that some of us know the truth: y’all don’t care about sexual violence or survivors,” she tweeted.
Henshaw, according to his profile on Wikipedia, is a Nigerian radio personality, rapper, television host and executive producer. He first gained notice as a member of the hip hop group Tuck Tyght Allstars. His radio career began at Rhythm 93.7 FM Port Harcourt, where he worked for over six years before joining Nigezie as a TV host.
In 2019, Henshaw was the Voice of Biggie, the mysterious host of the Big Brother Nigeria reality television show.
A day ago, Olutimehin also accused club owner and socialite Pretty Mike of raping her when she was a minor. According to her, she told her brother, who confronted the alleged rapist. And he had nothing tangible to say in his defense. With recent publicity on sexual abuse allegations, including this Big Brother Nigeria accusation; it’s time to talk about things that parents can do to reduce the risk of their children becoming victims of sexual assault and rape.
By the way, the unnamed rapist in my nonfiction piece that won the Gerald Kraak prize is Pretty Mike of Club Q, opposite Oshoppey Plaza, Ikeja. Not long after the rape, my brother confronted him. His response was essentially "guy, you know how it is now." https://t.co/R9xaMtPCSv
— OluTimehin Adegbeye (@OhTimehin) July 21, 2019
Protecting Your Kids From Sexual Assault
Talk about body parts early.
Name body parts and talk about them very early. Use proper names for body parts, or at least teach your child what the actual words are for their body parts.
Teach them that some body parts are private.
Tell your child that their private parts are called private because they are not for everyone to see.
Teach your child body boundaries.
Tell your child matter-of-factly that no one should touch their private parts and that no one should ask them to touch somebody else’s private parts.
Tell your child that body secrets are not okay.
Most perpetrators will tell the child to keep the abuse a secret. This can be done in a friendly way, such as, “I love playing with you, but if you tell anyone else what we played they won’t let me come over again.”
Tell your child that no one should take pictures of their private parts.
This one is often missed by parents. There is a whole sick world out there of pedophiles who love to take and trade pictures of naked children online.
Teach your child how to get out of scary or uncomfortable situations.
Some children are uncomfortable with telling people “no”— especially older peers or adults. Tell them that it’s okay to tell an adult they have to leave, if something that feels wrong is happening.
Have a code word your children can use when they feel unsafe or want to be picked up.
As children get a little bit older, you can give them a code word that they can use when they are feeling unsafe.
Tell your children they will never be in trouble if they tell you a body secret.
Tell your child that these rules apply even with people they know and even with another child.
This is an important point to discuss with your child. When you ask a young child what a “bad guy” looks like they will most likely describe a cartoonish villain. You can say something like, “Mommy and daddy might touch your private parts when we are cleaning you or if you need cream — but no one else should touch you there. Not friends, not aunts or uncles, not teachers or coaches. Even if you like them or think they are in charge, they should still not touch your private parts.”